„why (my) vagina* has an asterisk“

…there have been some discussions going on on tumblr concerning this meme i made:

…so here’s why (my) vagina* has an asterisk (that’s the little star at the end of the word):

(…first, i use an asterisk as a sign, that the terms i put it on are constructed ones. and not universal but depending on cultures/societies. (in short).)

…“vagina“ (and also „penis“) is a biological term, which is used to put genitals into gendered*/sexed* (not sure, if you could say it like that) boxes. these boxes have the names „male“, „female“ and_or „intersex“ on them. these boxes are used to assigne one and only one gender* to a newborn baby. usually (for white western gendered* cultures/societies) these „genital-boxes“ are the only indicators for the gender* people are assigned with. this ignores for once the fact, that genitals have more than two or three shapes. there are multiple shapes of genitals. and second, none of these shapes have anything to do with any gender* the (gendered*) person is. and most of the time (in white western gendered* cultures/societies) when genitals not (seem to) „fit“ in one of the two boxes „male“ and „female“, they are not only labeled „intersex“ they are also used as a reference-point, for all the (unneccessary!) surgeries which are (still) performed on mostly all of intersex babies/children. to make people „seemingly“ „fit“ into one of two, and only two exclusive and over time-stable gender*(s).
…this gender*(ed) assignment also leeds to other violence for example trans*(gender*/sexual*) people have to face. the violence experienced also depends on race*, class* and gender*, etc… for example the gender-violence black (trans*(gender*/sexual))-women of colour have to face is a whole lot different to the gender-violence white (trans*(gender*/sexual*)-women are experiencing…

…but_and (of course) they are (also) (trans*(gender*/sexual*)) people, who have not the fitting genitals for their gender*(s) and (of course) it is neccessary to have access to surgeries for changing any shape of any genitalias. but only if the person themself is wanting too! only then. there are (almost) no(!) medical reasons to alter somebodies genital-shape!

…also „intersex“, „trans*(gender*/sexual*)“ and „cis*(gender*/sexual*)“ are no mutual exclusive terms. these things can change and_or overlap. and not everybody is gendered* or has_is (only) one gender*.

…and i think, we* (the people of white western gendered* cultures/societies) also need to stop to assume any kind of genital-shape if somebody tells us* their gender*. these two things are not connected. we* are only made believe.

…that’s (in short) why i put an asterisk on vagina*.

.best. .love.



…es ist wieder soweit!
…aus aktuellem anlass habe ich mal wieder ein/zwei memes zum einfachen online-teilen gebastelt:
…und für alle, die es noch nicht wuszten:

TROUBLE X "du brauchst keine vagina*, um eine frau* zu sein!"

…zum informieren empfehle ich folgende link-sammlung:
…und diesen text: http://andrea366.wordpress.com/2013/12/13/beyond-eve-ensler-what-should-organizing-against-gender-violence-look-like/

…and again, it’s this time of year!
…here’s a meme for easy sharing:
…just in case, you didn‘t know:

"you don't need a vagina* to be a woman*!"

…for more informations, check this text:
…and the english links at the end of this text:

.take care!
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.TDoR. (20.11.2013)

…today is trans*(gender*_sexual*) day of remembrance!

…let’s (try to) remember all* of the trans*(gender*_sexual*) people, who died because of hate.

…let’s (try to) remember the ones who got murdered and also the ones, who died of suicide. let’s (try to) acknowledge, that suicide is very often as much an act of free will as it is an act of despair in recieving too much hate_rejection_hopelessness…

…let’s also (try to) remember the ones, that are missing in the statistics. who never made it into the statistics, because their deaths were never reported, who went missing and_or who’s (cause of) deaths never got connected to their (missing) gender* and_or who died because the attacker/s (only) assumed them being trans*(gender*_sexual*)…

…let’s (try to) remember that it is way more likely to be a target for/victim of trans*(gender*_sexual*)-hate, if you fall outside of the_(western) gender*-binary, are „visible“/exposed in one way or another, are not white, are poor, homeless, a minor, are (working as) a sexworker, female* and_or not straight, etc, etc.
…these things are connected. i think, we can‘t and shouldn‘t only remember them as victim/s_target/s of trans*(gender*_sexual*) hate, i think we should_have to acknowledge them as a whole person. we shouldn‘t erase their (individual) stories and should_have (to) connect this_them to the_our system/s, who allow_encourage these hate-crimes to happen.
…in most cases we‘ll never know, why exactly somebody got murdered, comitted suicide and_or went missing.

…let’s (try to) remind ourself, that gender* is nothing we can see. we might not know, what gender* a person is_has_not until we ask. and even if we ask, we don‘t have any right to know. there are people who are stealth and there are also people who don‘t have_are any gender* (at all). some people might identify_be trans*(gender*_sexual*) and some might not. some might have trans*(gender*_sexual*) experiences of multiple kinds and some might not be open (and i would say, nobody is obliged) to tell you about „these kind of things“. some (even) might be missing in this list.

…let’s (try to) take this day also as a reminder to not put each other down for what_who we* are and what_who we are not.

…much love.

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…and this: to us*! cheers! :)

.pix: mis-gender.tumblr.com

.open letter.

.open letter.

.meme – satire?

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